Are You Fed Up of Getting DMs Like This?

You receive a message.

You didn’t ask for it.

And within seconds… you know it’s a pitch.

Even when it says, “no pitch.”

Because something feels off.

There’s no real connection.

No reason they chose you.

No sign they’ve taken a moment to understand your work.

It’s not a message.

It’s a template.

And if you’re someone who values depth, discernment, and meaningful conversations…

you can feel that immediately.

This is where most people go wrong.

They approach DMs as a volume game.

But high-level clients don’t respond to volume.

They respond to precision.

So if you want your messages to actually open doors, here’s what to do instead:

1. Make it relevant

Show me you see me.

Reference something specific…

A perspective I shared.

A piece of work I’ve put out.

A thought that resonated.

Relevance is what earns attention.

2. Lead with real curiosity

Not a strategic question. A genuine one.

Something you actually want to know.

Something that invites a conversation, not a conversion.

Because people can feel the difference.

3. Offer value before you position yourself

Share an insight.

Reflect something back.

Offer a perspective that adds to their world.

Not to impress.

But to contribute.

That’s what builds trust.

And here’s the simplest way to know if your message works:

If it could be sent to 50 people, it won’t land with one.

The best conversations…

The best clients…

The best opportunities…

They don’t come from scripts.

They come from connecting.

With love,

Kanika